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A candle loses nothing by lighting another candle

                      Erin Majors

A man dies daily, only to be reborn in the morning, bigger, better and wiser.

                      Emmett Fox

A single conversation across a table with a wise man is worth a month's study of books

                       Chinese proverb

A single moment of understanding can flood a whole life with meaning.

                      Unknown Author

One man all by himself is nothing. Two people who belong together make a world.

                       Hans Margolius

 

                       

Here are some of life's lessons I've learnt so far...
1. If you are too open-minded, your brain falls out.
2. Don't worry about what people think, they don't do it very often.
3. Going to church doesn't make you a Christian any more than standing in a garage makes you a car.
4. It ain't the jeans that make your butt look fat.
5. Artificial intelligence is no match for natural stupidity.
6. My idea of housework is to sweep the room with a glance.
7. Not one shred of evidence supports the notion that life is serious.
8. It is easier to get forgiveness than permission.
9. For every action, there is an equal and opposite government program.
10. If you look like your passport picture, you probably need the trip.
11. Bills travel through the mail at twice the speed of cheques.
12. A conscience is what hurts when all of your other parts feel so good.
13. Eat well, stay fit, die anyway.
14. Men are from earth. Women are from earth. Deal with it.
15. No man has ever been shot while doing the dishes.
16. A balanced diet is a glass of wine in one hand and some good piece of chocolate in the other. 
17. Middle age is when broadness of the mind and narrowness of the waist change places.
18. Opportunities always look bigger going than coming.
19. Junk is something you've kept for years and throw away three weeks before you need it.
20. Thou shall not weigh more than thy refrigerator.
21. There is always one more idiot than you counted on.
22. Experience is the ability to recognize a mistake when you make it again.
23. Someone who thinks logically provides a nice contrast to the  real world.
24. By the time you can make ends meet, they move the ends.
25. If you must choose between two evils, pick the one you've never tried before.

Watch out for those who act on second thought

 

It is a device of business people to put the opponent off his gaurd before attacking him, and thus to conqueur by being defeated. They dissemble their desire so as to attain it. They put themselves second so as to come out first. This method rarely fails if it is not noticed. Let therefore the attention never sleep when the intention is so wide awake. And if the other puts himself second so to hide his plan, put yourself first to discover his plan. Prudence can discern the artifices that such a man uses, and notices the pretexts he puts forward to gain his ends. He aims at one thing to get another, then he turns round smartly and fires straight at his target. It is good to know what you grant him, and at times it is desirable to let him understand that you understand

 

 

 

 I have been told i wear my heart on my sleeve - and i suppose i am the what u see is what u get type of person.

So now that i'm freshly single and am looking at my sleeve i think its finally time to put my heart away in side because it seems pretty beaten up - but that is so much harder to do when the hole time in my 15yrs of dating i've always had it out side .

 

Is it so hard to fall in love get married , have the 2 and half kids with the little house and the 2 dogs , why is it that , that is what most people want in life and we all just battle to get it or keep it. Why do we all hurt eachother . Everyone has been hurt by someone they love but i think some people over feel their emotions and the here and now, and some people are just simply put - emotionally retarded and just cant feel - they are like walking robots just going through the motions of "love" - almost pretending - they do not look over at their spouse or significant other in the morning and say i'm so happy to have some one in my bed that i love they just look at them for what they reprasent - a hot wife - a rich husband - trophy - a pay check !!!! At what point do u realize or do most people realize its not about that but about a partner that is not a paycheck or a trophy but that ur ideal partner should be someone u want to spend hours talking to and being emotionally intamate with and someone that is on the same intellectual level as u and the same emotional level.

 

People under estimate emotional intellegence - its a huge factor i think in any realationship - some people are just built and have learnt more emotions and different aspects of emotions were as others have never had their emotional intellect seriously challenged and hence havent had to grow - and sometime hey i wish i was emotionally retarted - i think it would hurt less and might be easier to feel less than to feel SO much - even though in the same breath i have to say i love being emotional and passionate it is fantasitic feeling everything in full 150% full colour emotions when things are good and magical but what a ride when u come off the cloud - its almost like cocaine i would think - u have ur uppers and ur downers, when its good its really good and when its bad its hell 

 

Well i'm just old fashioned i geuss - looking for my little farm house of a nest egg to hatch my future brood of kids. To have my dogs and stables full of horses - ok horse are optional - and the husband that will be in love with idea of being in LOVE with his WIFE - what a novilty in this day and age - and a man who is in love not just with his wife but his kids and his life ! And Mr perfect who will get up in the middle of the night and take the kid off my hands . But the main thing being that he can actually express his love and his emotions and treat me like a queen and his queen making me and our lives together his number one priority and as a result i would and do love back in return 500% more than what i'm given - giving up my hole life to make sure my man is as happy as what he would make me happy - is it so hard to make the person u are love with and have declared ur love to happy - the answer should be NO its easy -  but how come it is then so hard to move heaven and earth for some one u LOVE - ur love should give u the power to do that which u think will make ur love happy and stronger.

 

My question to the universe is why dont we move heaven and earth anymore for our loves of our live - how come we do not love one person any more and burn a candle for that one person anymore - why have relationships become so trivial - why are marridges so disposable - why are kids fourced into ugly divorce stituations . Like in the knickle back song - if every one cared and no body lied then we would see the day that nobody cried - but tears are constantly flowing and i think flowing more than they ever have before . Life seems so intense yet life has been become so cheep and disposable .

 

Well a couple of weeks have past and basically the house is finally sold - well money is not in the bank yet and its only techically gone when that happens right. So right - here to from here - The future who knows what it holds - hopefully happier stress free days - maybe a trip to Frankfurt and the german french wine route will be a nice de-stressor and who knows maybe I meet a sexy sailor along the way and have lots of babies with him and put them in leader hosen - ah ha. Yup the wine has kicked in people.

 

Well i am finally single mr perfect from a few months ago - well yup u geussed it not so perfect - jerk off. Isnt it funny every time u put something like that in writting - it F****S out . So here we are - i'm 30 recovering from surgery issues - still - but thank goodness coming right - but think the cancer in my life is gone - the ex - and thats the big helper. My best friend has left the country for OZ - another one bights the dust. We all say we LOVE africa - but we all leave at the drop of a hat - dont blame anyone - i'm also a desserter. Hey but put it this way for every one of brain drainers that leaves - unemployment goes down - yup from 89% to 88%. OOH full of good thoughts tonight.

 

Not to sure what to do with the one main love of my life my pup desiel - he needs a good home if i leave and it kills me this dog could teach some men some leasons in life . Seriously they should take notes - the love that some animals have to give is incredable. Its so unconditional and beautiful . I've never had a huge dog like this before - he loves to give his mom cuddles so cute and when i'm all pathetic and lonely he comes and lies on my feet or nudges me till i cheer up. Well he's special - if u met him u'd say the same thing - provided ur a dog person.

 

The past got a bit sentimental i think i miss my family over seas - only my mom dad sis and bro here - so hence posted some new family pics really nice old black and white once. Each one is so special to me - my grandfather is dead so those of him are extra special - granny still kicking - she's got bigger social life than me - at 75 - go granny, shes cool old chick - still has her own business and in full control of her sences - not bad if i turn out like her at 75 .

 

So yes that all for now - the bitch session will continue another night when i'm on my 3rd gls of wine and had a shitty day.